Q.

Five weeks ago, the love of my life sent me a goodbye text. When Fridays come around, I feel hopeless with nothing to do on the weekends. I miss this woman very much. I have two questions: 1) Can broken relationships be repaired? If so, how can I rekindle this one? 2) If our relationship can’t be saved, what can I do to move on? I admit that I’m not there yet, but if I were to date someone, all I’d think about would be my ex. Right now, I’m in terrible emotional pain. Please help!

—Missing My Ex

A.

Dear Missing,

As a relationship therapist, I guide couples to fix their issues. But both people must want the fix. Since your ex delivered her goodbye through a cold, non-negotiable text, consider this caper kaput. Right now, beyond work, you're boring! True, you’re not ready for new romance, but before you are, get a life! My Gilda-Gram® explains, “Your primary relationship must be the one you have with yourself.”



This is your time to pursue unmet goals. Make yourself interesting, and you’ll attract an interested mate.  When that new love appears, hear the Rascal Flatts song, “Bless the Broken Road,” that says, “Every long lost dream led me to where you are…” You’ll know why your former love didn’t last; this one will be better—because you are!

 —Dr. Gilda