Q.

I am involved with a man who was married for 23 years and went into a rebound relationship with a woman for a year and then married her. Now he has been married for two years. As sweet as she is, she is not intellectually stimulating, and there is a question about whether she married him for financial stability. This man and I are emotionally connected, although with nothing physical yet. We would like to get to know each other more. However, the boundaries of marriage remain. He is undergoing counseling to see if his marriage is workable, which he doubts. My problem is that we have a 20-year age difference: I’m 34 and he is 54, and I’m not sure he knows what he wants.
—Other Woman

A.

Dear Other,

You may be the other woman, but not dude’s SIGNIFICANT other woman! While you’re worried about an age difference, you ought to be concerned over a maturity difference. Dude does not know “what he wants.” If I were his shrink, I would not help him assess his marriage unless he left you! Otherwise, his getting counseling is a lie.

Terrified of being alone, this man-child wants insurance he’ll always have access to a ready vagina. ANY vagina will do. You say, “We would like to get to know each other more.” Girlfriend, how much more do you need to know? You’ve already got the picture, and you know it’s warped and moldy. Trash it, so you can find a more substantial portrait!
—Dr. Gilda


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