Q.

For six months, I have had an intimate relationship with a rich, handsome guy. Since the first day we met, he hasn't given me even a pin as a gift or a penny for my upkeep. I'm jobless now, which he is aware of, but he hasn't made any effort to at least support me. I really need financial help, but I don't have the courage to ask because he has never given me the chance to. How can I make him give me money, or should I break up with him because he is stingy? —Financially Challenged

A.

Dear FC,

Girl, it’s attitudes like yours that cause some of my angry male clients to name women “prostitutes” when they expect payment for intimacy. You don’t want a boyfriend; you want a sugar daddy! Because “rich, handsome guy” hasn’t given you money, you name him “stingy.” In actuality, he’s wise to prevent himself from being used by a woman like you.

If you believe that men were put on this planet to support you, go to a sugar daddy website where the boundaries are understood. Even then, a guy you depend on could die, leave, or become incapacitated. Where would you be then? A healthier route would be for you to become independent. No man owes you anything, but you owe it to yourself to grow up!

—Dr. Gilda

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